Ed’s Note: No questions today. Why? Father’s Day is on Sunday, and Cicely wanted to write to a good man.
Fortunately, I’m one of the lucky ones. Not everyone can say they grew up with a father who was a constant presence. A rolling stone, you were not.
As your daughter, I’ve been privileged. Not just monetarily (though giving me movie and gas money at 29 still helps), but emotionally. Not every woman can say she’s had an active father figure. And you’ve been that.
We don’t gossip like Lauralei and Rory. I don’t tell you all of my business and, thankfully, you don’t share all that with me. You’re not perfect, but no one is.
What we have, though, is a bond that overcame the devastating loss of my mother and your wife and a desire to keep it moving. When Mama died, we could have broken down and just stayed still. But that’s not who we are.
You’ve shown me what it means to be loved by a man. What it means to come first in his life. It’s something plenty of girls never get to experience, and I’m grateful you’ve provided that for me. It’s something I’ve taken with me into every relationship thus far, and you’ve provided me with an undeniable standard.
Daddy, you are my favorite person. And I know that I’m definitely in your top two (Jason, my brother, can share this spotlight with me, for once).
Since Mama died, there have been other women to come into your life, and I gave those hoes the side eye every time they walked in wasn’t always the most pleasant person for them to be around. But out of respect for you, I wasn’t overtly mean. However, not once did I feel like anything less than your baby girl.
I know that from now until it’s time for either one of us to be called home, my happiness, safety and protection will be your top priorities. And as you enter your sixth decade on your 34th Father’s Day, I want to say this: Thank you so much for being the man that you are and the best father anyone could hope for.
Your little girl aka Snookems aka Snoop aka Pooh Bear aka Whatever you feel like calling me today
Note: OK, two questions: What are you doing for your dad for Father’s Day? If nothing, for obvious reasons, what would you like to say to your father?