Today is an important day of sorts. It’s my day of birth (Aug. 18th). Last year, I did this “15 Things I’m Glad I Learned Before 28” as a note on Facebook. It went over well.
They say you learn something new every day. So here is this year’s version. It’s not quite 365 things, but here are “8 Things I’ve Learned Between 28 and 29.”
1. No “You’re Almost 30” joke is funny, Ryan, Monica or Alexandra. I’ve been hearing them since I turned 27, and sure, I fake laugh at them all. I want you to think you’re funny. But you’re not, especially my loving younger brother who looks like he could be his son’s grandfather (Sorry Ryan, I had to).
2. I abhor texting. This sorta kinda made the list last year. Yet, I somehow have received around 50 text messages that have made me blow an effing gasket or two in the last 365 days from people who know how I feel about this form of communication. It makes me hate it more. And I’ve seriously considered disabling the function. But that would be too easy of a joke for Ryan, Monica and/or Alex.
3. I have great friends. I knew this around this time last year and the year before that, and the year before that and so on. I’ve had the same close circle of friends for the better part of 10 years, or since about my sophomore year of college. There have been ups and downs with everyone. And I’ve done more than my share of dumb stuff, but no one’s really disowned me. Best yet, each of my good friends gives me something different and helps me be to be a better person. They keep me sane and I’m grateful for their presence in my life.
4. You’re your own best X-Ray machine. Anyone can point fingers at others and their problems. Can you do it to yourself, though? Introspection works. The more honesty you filter into your self-diagnosis, the better off you’ll be. It’s tough to do all the time. But the more you can do it, the easier it will be to find the proper remedy.
5. Arguing in circles gets you nowhere. This is a tragic flaw of mine, one that I’m conquering because I’ve likely wasted a full month of my 29 years arguing with people who won’t budge, even if they know they’re in the wrong. And at this stage in life, post quarter-life crisis, I’m about making the most of my time or at least trying to do so.
6. Good music isn’t dead. This time last year, I was certain that it was dying a slow death. What’s dying are people who care to hear good music. Seriously, Big Luther rolls over in his grave every time Soulja Boy’s “Turn My Swag On” is broadcast over the airwaves. That means Big Luther is currently spinning like a hamster wheel.
7. Prayers get answered. I was reminded of this in January. I’m gonna print this one out and stick it on my bathroom mirror because I need to remind myself of it every day.
8. Writing open letters is cathartic. I’ve penned a lot of stuff that I’ll never show anyone, unsent lengthy e-mails, horrific poems and whatnot. Writing my thoughts in an open letter format for others read, even if the intended target never sees it, is an amazing release. I never realized how much easier it would be to let some things go on a personal level. I mean, I can actually look at a misused exclamation mark without wanting to choke someone. And I’m glad you all are along for the ride.
What’s one thing you’ve learned since your last birthday?