41. Lamar Odom


So the rumors are true, and I couldn’t be more dumbfound than I am as I write this. Don’t get me wrong. I’m glad that you feel as though you’ve found someone you can share your life with and you’re willing to make that commitment. That’s wonderful.

But I don’t get how you make such a major decision in less than 31 days of knowing someone. There are people who know more about Khloe from watching Kardashian reality television shows than you possibly could, although you could go back and watch the DVDs. But you’re committing yourself to her in marriage after a whirlwind courtship?

Lamar & Khloe sitting in a tree... and they're getting hitched before you can finish the song.

Lamar & Khloe sitting in a tree... and they're getting hitched before you can finish the song.

Lamar, you do realize that you took more time deciding whether or not to play the upcoming season alongside Dwyane Wade or Kobe Bryant this summer than you spent deciding to walk the plank with Khloe, right? You’ve gotta think that’s a little strange that you have a better feel for Kobe and Wade on the basketball court than you do for your bride-to-be in the house.

Now, I’m not writing this letter to chastise you or your decision, although I do think it’s insane…ly premature. I don’t want you pulling a Richard Jefferson because of me. And I don’t want you thinking it can’t work. Although, the statistics aren’t on your side.

I’m just wondering how it works: How do you decided in less than a month of dating someone that you want to be with that person forever, that you want to jump a broom with him or her?

I’ve had my share of situations with the opposite sex. And not once have I come to the conclusion that I could would marry someone in a 31-day period. Sure, I’ve noticed positive signs about a woman after a good conversation or two, moments where I’ve thought “she might make a good wife some day.” But never have I left a convo thinking “that’s the woman I’m going to marry in less than 31 days of knowing her because she completes me and I’ve gotta wed her before I leave for training camp.”

That just doesn’t seem right. But maybe it is. Who knows? Only time will tell for you and your bride-to-be, huh?

Although I’m certain I won’t marry someone I’ve known less than a year, I just want you to share with us how you know it’s right so soon in case this situation presents itself to anyone I know. There are millions upon millions of people out there looking for love, and you’ve found it in such a short time. Again, that’s great. I just want you to share that secret with the rest of us who happen to be looking for that spark you and Khloe have found.

I’m sure there are plenty of women who want to know how they can get 9 carats in less than a month. Maybe you should write a book about everything that’s happened over the last month. You and Khloe can lead them to the promised land. Who knows? Maybe you could outsell Steve Harvey and recoup what you spent on that ring … for someone you’ve known for less than a month.

Anyway, I hope Sunday is everything you’ve dreamt it to be.



P.S. Don’t do it. Reconsider. Read some liter..ature on this subject. Are you sure?


39 responses to “41. Lamar Odom

  1. Who was the guy that she was dating previously? The NFL play? Did you hear how he only dated her for the publicity? Perhaps, this is what Mr. Odom is doing as well? (pretty sleazy if he is.) If not, they’ll be divorced in less than a year.

  2. 31 days? WTH? I have SHOES I can’t make decision on in thirty-one days. TV Shows I can’t commit to in a four week time period. What exactly has this chick done for you in one month’s time that makes her THE ONE. Inquiring minds want to know.

    Okay wait, spare us any intimate details because no matter how smoking hot the horizontal lock and load may be, NO one gets married for that… right? Bump the Drake “Best I ever had” nonsense. Lamar… come on dude!

    Lamar, did you think she’d find someone else? Are you in need of attention from the Paparazzi? Did you take one elbow to the head too many? Is she pregnant (or is that the other one?)

    Please tell us you all needed to do this so whichever Kardashian reality show this one is on gets picked up for another season and Lamar will be launching of Hoops Honey of Love/ For the Love of Lamar show for VH1!

    Either way… good luck with that. Who’s taking action on this? I’d like to put my money on one year please.

  3. Between the pheromones and the neurotransmitters, he’s really high on love. (http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199709/the-plunge-pleasure) Happens a lot but people typically don’t marry the person because in the Western world, it’s not socially acceptable. But think back a generation or two. Many of our grandparents married after short periods because the man was going off to war. Those marriages lasted. I’m not saying it’s a recipe for sure fire success. But I certainly can see it happening and being just as successful (or disastrous) as marriages between people who’ve known each other 5+ years.

  4. I still think this is a sick joke. You know she hasn’t even met his kids.

  5. I think you hit the nail on the head when you mentioned him watching Keeping up with the Kardashians. lol.

    I guess he feels like he “knows” her.


  6. I don’t know who this guy is and I wish I didn’t know who she is. Do I think this marriage will last? No because these two will probably not do the things that are necessary to keep a marriage together.

    Do I think that it is possible that you meet someone, fall in love, and get married in less than 30 days and then that marriage last? Yes, I do. It is rare in today’s world because people are caught up in wanting instant gratification. People have gotten lazy and don’t want to work for things, in this case a successful marriage.

    But I agree with Ms. Smart, it used to happen a lot more often then it does now. Plus, I know people that got married after knowing each other 2 weeks and have been married for 20 years and I know other people that dated for 5 years and got divorced after 1.

    • @tam: People got married fast like that in a different time, but they also had different values and morals.

      Sure there a people who are doing something similar now, getting married before they go to war. But it seems as though more people are marrying off in that case for financial reasons/benefits… idk.

      “Plus, I know people that got married after knowing each other 2 weeks and have been married for 20 years and I know other people that dated for 5 years and got divorced after 1.”

      Same here. And I’m curious, on some level, as to how you know two weeks in… that’s just a little fast. But for it to work for 20 years… you have to know something fairly quickly.

      • @Damon: I agree….the morals and values of today are vastly different from those of the past (not for all people but for too many people).

        I’m curious too. I have no idea how you could know after 2 weeks that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone.

  7. Well if anyone knows anything about Lamar Odom then this isn’t particularly shocking. He’s always been somewhat aloof.

    From what I understand the Khloe girl is pregnant. That could definitely explain the hurry to avoid illegitimacy (re: Bastard). I thought that Lamar Odom was still married. I remember 2 years ago, that Lamar sat out some of the season when his child died @ age 8 or 9. He was pretty devastated by that and I was pretty sure him and his wife were still together. Damon, you remember any of this? Fill me in…

  8. I know this is all for the sake of conversation so I won’t go in too hard but ummmm…..

    THIS IS A PUBLICITY STUNT! for both parties involved. She needs ratings and he needs attention. Sure he plays for a championship winning team but he’s a bum on the court. And we won’t talk about the fact that people are starting to be so over these talentless Kardashian chicks…People, recognize the game that Hollywood plays please!

    • @jlbd: I figure that pretty much anything people that have reality shows do is a publicity stunt. I do find it sad that we live in a society where marriage is used for ratings purposes. I don’t want the show but is Khole the one that was JUST kissing up on Terrance J at the beginning of the season?

      • That should have been “watch” not “want”.

      • @Tam

        Yeah her trashy azz was kissing up on Terrence J and I heard she’s supposedly falls for Omarion on the next episode. But of course these shows are taped far in advance which gives her time to get her claws into the next victim…lol!

    • @jlbd: idk… You say it’s all for show, and I’m not sure. I just think it’s stupid, whether or not it’s about publicity or aloof infatuation.

      If you pay attention, you know Lamar Odom’s not really the attention-seeking type. So that’s not what it’s about from his corner. He’s also far from a bum on the court, though. That’s the furthest thing from the truth. He’s one of the Lakers better players.

      I don’t pay attention to the Kardashians. They do reality television. Though I do think Kim’s posterior is store-bought. But I could see the publicity thing coming out of that camp.

      I also could see her being that insecure that she feels as though she needs to do this… idk.

      • Damon,

        Lamar Odom is most definitely garbage on the court, surprisingly you are the only person I’ve heard say any differently….lol…I’m not even a sports guru and I could observe this…he tried to come through once it got cut close, but in general -> extreme wackness!

        And, for the record, please stop trying to see the good and honesty in EVERYTHING and EVERYONE; it’s cute at first but then you start to come off as naive…. (lmao! you know I love you Vic Damone) :p

        • Sorry but Lamar Odom is far from a bum. He lacks consistency but so do Vince Carter, T-Mac, Rashard Lewis, etc. Like all of those listed, when he’s on, he’s on and when he’s not, he’s not. No one in the game can match-up with him. He’s 6’11 and has the handles of point guard, shot of 2-guard and big man skills to play the 4. I’m sorry but whatever sports gurus told you that Lamar was garbage should be vastly discredited.

          Lamar ain’t Kobe/LBJ/Dirk but he definitely isn’t Will Perdue either.

          • @oates: Thank you. Tell this non-sports watching clown… The only sport JLBD watches is boxing…

            Stay in your lane JLBD.

            • ‘The only sport JLBD watches is boxing…’


              This is so far from the truth. And uh, sorry but I definitely have heard many others all Lamar a bum which is what made ME take notice. I started watching him, and his inconsistencies far outweighted the consistencies….sorry, it is what it is…but it doesn’t matter to me either which way, I just stated my opinion on his ‘relationship’ with Khloe and the variables that are likely involved, nothing more, nothing less…*shrugs shoulders*

        • @jlbd: *shakes my head* … and yes, I spelled it out. YOU DON’T WATCH BASKETBALL… lol.

          And I think you know me well enough to know that skeptical of most things, even this… but I also give people the benefit of the doubt to be absolute idiots if they so desire.

          You’re the person who thinks Tupac killed Biggie. You need the reality check. lol.

          • Ha! good comeback…

          • And for the record yes I do watch basketball and yes I do have eyes and yes Lamar is garbage. End of discussion.

            And, neither 2pac nor Biggie had anything to do with each other’s deaths (IMHO)…it was all some ignorant gangsta ish with a few corrupt cops involved and voila! two of the best rappers in hip hop history die within months of each other… 😉 smh…

            • “And for the record yes I do watch basketball and yes I do have eyes and yes Lamar is garbage. End of discussion.”

              That you’re reckless enough to say this lets me know that you don’t WATCH basketball. lol.

  9. People getting married is destroying the “sanctity” of marriage.

    This type of thing is something people just do. And they get divorced as just a matter of day to day living. It means nothing to them. After a few failed “marriages” (really can you call this being married?) they both will continue to say this next one will work…although they will have never worked out why the 1st 1/2 dozen marriages failed.

    your last paragraph is on point, especially how to get 9 carats in less than a month. NINE!! this is what prenups were made for. so so sad. like i always say, at least i ain’t related. it baffels me what “celebrity” folks will do to stay relevant. fame is a helluva drug.
    and where are her friends at?!? it is stuff like this that amplifies how important it is to surround oneself with some dayum sense. common sense ain’t so common anymore.
    and imma need A&E ‘intervention’ to expand their horizons beyond drug abuse/addiction, ’cause clearly some folks in tinsel town need a reality check.

  11. Who knows…Nick and Mariah still seem to be doing okay from what I can tell, but I really don’t follow Hollywood gossip unless it’s on CNN’s front page. I agree that it’s not the length of time spent dating beforehand but rather doing the things afterward that are necessary to keep a marriage together.

    I personally would rather make a more informed decision for a LIFE commitment by knowing as much about the person as possible, which I think could only come from a year or two of dating. But perhaps some people don’t care that much because they know when it stops working, they can just get a divorce.

    Again who knows…sometimes these things are just a matter of fate, whether or not they work out. Some people work really hard on their marriages and still end up divorced.

  12. I can’t help but wonder if she’s pregnant. Maybe that’s why they are in such a rush?
    I can’t call it. I give ’em a year…tops.

  13. #fail

    And that’s all I have.

    I support love, but I do not support stupidity.

  14. I don’t keep up with the Kardashian’s aside from Kim’s Shoedazzle business. May I add a plug that I have selected shoes from her showroom twice and I love them.

    But like I said, I’m not into their drama but I did want to say that Damon, my favorite line from this letter is “I do think it’s insane…ly premature.”

    I love the use of language and I found that very clever. that’s all.

  15. All I could say to this situation was, “Wow!” It’s not so much that they’ve decided to get married after only a month of courtship; it’s that they got engaged a week before their wedding. Again, Wow!

    BTW, Dame: I’m exhausted 😦

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