No letter today. Just a little rant…
There’s a small part of me that feels bad for Steve Phillips’ old jumpoff. Don’t get too worked up, though, because by “small part” I mean something that’s probably the equivalent of a toenail.
I feel bad because Brooke Hundley has been roasted like a stuffed pig on this Internet ever since the story of her affair with Phillips broke last week. Well, that’s not true. She’s been roasted like a stuffed pig ever since pictures of her began circulating the Internet.
I’ve refrained from talking bad about her looks while blasting her childish actions. But I’ve chuckled at Hundley’s expense thanks to Page Six’s choice of verbiage concerning her and the comments that have littered the Web. There are some ruthless people out there. But they have a point: Hundley makes Monica Lewinsky look like the ideal Playboy playmate.
From her looks alone, there are many people wondering how in the world Phillips — a man with some reasonable amount of fame, fortune and a beautiful (soon-to-be ex-)wife — could chose such an unsightly jumpoff. I actually engaged in a Twitter debate with Peyso, who frequents TMCY and writes weekly over at SSSO, concerning this.
I was trying to explain to Peyso that men tend to find lesser women to play the role of the other woman, and that Phillips choice of Hundley shouldn’t be all that surprising. After all, Phillips was just looking to get laid. He wasn’t concerned with whom, or else he wouldn’t have been so careless as to choose someone who’d be naive enough to believe that he’d want a real relationship with her and pull the stunts he pulled.
Toward the end of the discussion, Peyso asked me this: If your significant other were to ever cheat on you, wouldn’t you want that other person to look better than you? Wouldn’t that make you feel better?
An interesting query.
When it comes down to it, I wouldn’t care what the other guy looked liked or what he did. I’ll admit that there was a time — long ago — when that type of stuff may have mattered some. But at this point in life, it’s inconsequential. I see stuff like cheating and adultry in black and white. That said, I don’t think we should be paying that much attention to Hundley’s looks and comparing them to his wife, either (But this is America. She looks terrible and this is what we do).
Here’s why: Comparing oneself — be it looks, education, earning potential or social status — to the competition is one of the most frivolous things we do as people. When you start trying to understand why someone decides to go outside of his/her relationship, the primary place you need to search is the guilty party within the relationship.
Too often people get caught up in that game of “How could he go there with her when I am/look 20 times better than her?” when the question mark in the query should come after the word “there.”
There are enough potential answers to the question when it ends with “there,” and you multiply the the possiblities by an infinite number when you add the other ten words to it. You could spend months, if not years, trying to piece together a pointless puzzle of blue sea.
Or you could just understand that some people, like Steve Phillips, have issues and need to get it in outside of their relationship/marriage for whatever reason excuse, and keep it moving. I know it’s not that easy, but doesn’t it seem like it could/should be that simple?
I don’t know. These are just my thoughts. Am I off here? Why does this stuff tend to matter so much? Let’s discuss…